These things helped me. Maybe they'll help you.
I have found that while getting sober, I have learned many things I would not have learned had I not gotten sober... things that most people would benefit from...
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I first heard the quote "Have a great day because it's your choice. I'm going to have a great day because it's my choice" from Jack.
He has been sober longer than I and he has great insight.
He has also written two amazing books relating to sobriety.
His sharing inspired me to create this page.
This book has helped me through some of my life's most difficult challenges.
Pema's life story is also fascinating.
Alcoholic Anonymous is great place to start. https://www.aa.org/
Mandatory reading includes:
One of my favorite books is "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... And It's All Small Stuff", by Richard Carlson.
Quoting from this book is pretty useless, it is all great.
But here are some of my favorite chapter titles:
Make Peace With Imperfection
Be Aware of the Snowball Effect of Your Thinking
Learn to Live in The Present Moment
Imagine That Everyone Is Enlightened Except You
Create Patience Practice Periods
Ask Yourself the Question, "Will This Matter A Year From Now?"
Lower Your Tolerance to Stress
Repeat to Yourself, "Life Isn't an Emergency"
Experiment With Your Back Burner
Become Aware of Your Moods and Don't Allow Yourself to Be Fooled by the Low Ones
Choose Being Kind over Being Right
Resist the Urge to Criticize
See the Glass as Already Broken
Understand the Statement, "Wherever You Go, There You Are"
Become a Less Aggressive Driver
Be Grateful When You're Feeling Good and Graceful when You're Feeling Bad
Do One Thing At A Time
Be Flexible with Changes in Your Plans
Practice Ignoring Your Negative Thoughts
Be Happy Where You Are
Think Of Your Problems as Potential Teachers
Get Comfortable Not Knowing
Cut Yourself Some Slack
Redefine a "Meaningful Accomplishment"
Give Up On the Idea that More is Better
Keep Asking Yourself, "What's Really Important"
Mind Your Own Business
Live This Day as if it were Your Last, It Might Be!
This is a collection of quotes that I find helpful and/or interesting.
I use quotes to help me focus on making progress in my evolution.
These were collected years ago when I published a zine called F.O.E ."Freedom of Expression".
"We're from Bethlehem and we can do whatever the f*ck we want!"
"Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory."
"There is so much good in the worst of us, and so much bad in the best of us, that it behooves all of us not to talk about the rest of us."
"There are two ways to slide easily through life: to believe everything or to doubt everything; both ways save us from thinking."
"The problem is not that there are problems. The problem is expecting otherwise and thinking that having problems is a problem."
"Today, if you are not confused, you are just not thinking clearly."
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense."
"Live as if your were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever."
"Everything's got a moral, if only you can find it."
"Freedom is not worth having if it does not connote freedom to err."
"A life spent making mistakes is not only more honorable but more useful than a life spent in doing nothing."
"We must learn our limits. We are all something, but none of us are everything."
"The secret of getting ahead is getting started. The secret of getting started is breaking your complex overwhelming tasks into small manageable tasks, and then starting on the first one."
"You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream."
"One of the most essential things you need to do for yourself is to choose a goal that is important to you. Perfection does not exist - you can always do better and you can always grow."
"Life is a succession of lessons which must be lived to be understood."
"The older I get the more wisdom I find in the ancient rule of taking first things first. A process which often reduces the most complex human problem to a manageable proportion."
"The important thing is not to stop questioning."
"I like nonsense, it wakes up the brain cells. Fantasy is a necessary ingredient in living."
It's never too late to have a happy childhood.
People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be. Abraham Lincoln
"Common sense is instinct. Enough of it is genius."
Our greatest glory is not in never failing but in rising up every time we fail.
Most people live and die with their music still unplayed. They never dare to try.
Our life is frittered away by detail... Simplify, SIMPLIFY.
When I hear music, I fear no danger. I am invulnerable. I see no foe.
Our sweetest songs are those that tell of saddest thought.
The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those who look on and do nothing.
Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
Restlessness and discontent are the first necessities of progress.
If you play it safe in life, you've decided that you don't want to grow anymore.
Music is your own experience, your own thoughts, your wisdom. If you don't live it, it won't come out of your horn. They teach you there's a boundary line to music. But, man, there's no boundary line to art.
Chaos is the law of nature, order is the dream of man.
A problem is a chance for you to do your best.
It is better to be hated for what you are than loved for what you are not.
I think and think for months and years. Ninety-nine times, the conclusion is false. The hundredth time I am right.
Life is either a daring adventure or nothing. Security does not exist in nature, nor do the children of men as a whole experience it. Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than exposure.
To be one’s self, and unafraid whether right or wrong, is more admirable than the easy cowardice of surrender to conformity.
Do not be too timid and squeamish about your actions. All life is an experiment.
Conformity is the jailer of freedom and the enemy of growth.
Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional.
Nobody, as long as he moves about among the chaotic currents of life, is without trouble.
Tomorrow is the most important thing in life. Comes into us at midnight very clean. It’s perfect when it arrives and it puts itself in our hands. It hopes we’ve learned something from yesterday.
Things won are done; joy’s soul lies in the doing.
Happiness depends on your attitude toward what happens to you, not on what happens to you. It may sound revolutionary, but problems don't have to make you unhappy. This runs counter to our cultural programming - which tells us we must react in certain negative ways to certain "negative" events. Nonetheless, happiness is always our choice. That is a reality of life. from the book, How to Survive the Loss of a Love
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.
The greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering attitudes of mind.
I was gratified to be able to answer promptly, and I did. I said I didn't know.
If you find a path with no obstacles, it probably doesn't lead anywhere.
There are five billion human beings and in a certain way I think we need five billion different religions, because there is such a large variety of dispositions. I believe that each individual should embark upon a spiritual path that is best suited to his or her mental disposition, natural inclination, temperament, belief, family and cultural background.